Divorce: What Happens to the Cat Left Behind? | Ep. 139

A Maine Coon named Ela was left behind after his owners’ divorce. Hear his story of neglect, anxiety, and healing on Diary of a Cat Mom.


A Maine Coon named Ela was left behind after his owners’ divorce. Hear his story of neglect, anxiety, and healing on Diary of a Cat Mom.


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Wondering why your cat scratches your couch instead of the scratching post? Learn the physical, emotional, and communication reasons behind this common cat behavior.

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Wondering why your cat suddenly hides? Learn common reasons cats hide, including fear and illness plus ways to help your cat feel safe again.

Cat leash walking isn’t really about walking. Learn why cats prefer to sit, watch, and relax outside — and how to create calm, safe enrichment time.


If your cat pees outside the litter box but tests are normal, stress may be the cause. Learn what your cat is trying to communicate.

If your cat splashes water instead of drinking, it may be instinct—not behavior. Learn why cats prefer moving water and what helps.

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Create a calming environment for indoor cats by attracting pollinators outside your window. A simple enrichment idea that changes everything.

When your cat hides, it can feel personal. Learn why it’s not rejection—and how your energy affects your cat’s behavior and connection.

A reflective cat mom podcast episode about understanding cat behavior, letting go of control, and learning to listen instead of forcing outcomes.

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A quiet reflection on stress, unexpected moments, and learning to pause with What a Pleasure, using Kabbalah to love our cats instead of reacting.

A quiet reflection on an emergency vet visit, unexpected diagnosis, and the heavy love of choosing care for a cat you’re not ready to lose.

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An anxious attachment style shaped how I loved for years. This episode is about how living with cats slowly taught me a healthier way to…

An intimate episode with cozy mystery author Camey Carson, sharing small-town stories and why cats belong in the gentlest mysteries we return to.


A quiet reflection on loving cats deeply, becoming a helicopter cat mom, and learning how to care without losing yourself to worry.


A quiet reflection on stress, regulation, and how a cat mom’s nervous system gently affects her cats. Soft thoughts on pausing and awareness.